Being Great Hosts for Your Wedding

It’s your wedding! It’s your party – and yes, you can dance, sing or even cry if you want to. However, you must consider that you are inviting guests to share with your special day and you as a host are responsible for making your guests enjoy this occasion, to feel comfortable and appreciated for their taking time to make sure that they are present during your wedding.

Here are a few tips and etiquette reminders so that both you and your guests thoroughly enjoy the moments of your wedding:

–          Choose your wedding date and wedding location in consideration with your guests.  Select your wedding date and location to also be convenient for your guests. You may consider setting your wedding on a weekday but also think about how this will affect your guests’ schedule. Also, choose a wedding location that is easy to access, especially for those who will be using public transportation.

–          Choose your wedding location for your guests’ comfort and convenience. What facilities does your selected wedding reception venue have? Does it have enough parking spaces? If you are inviting someone who is on a wheelchair, are there wheelchair ramps to provide easy access into the venue? Is the venue comfortable – with sufficient heating/air-conditioning, enough coat check facilities, enough rest rooms and so on?

–          Select your menu carefully. Are your guests as adventurous as you when it comes to food? Are there guests who have dietary restrictions? Are there vegans, vegetarians or people who only eat kosher food in your guest list or guests that are allergic to certain food? Talk this out with your caterer. Choose a “standard”, familiar food that could suit those who are less adventurous or allergic to some foods. If you can, you can also go with the caterer in your selected Sandy, UT wedding reception center. In-house caterers make it easier to make arrangements like these.

–          Don’t keep your guests waiting. Don’t make your ceremony too long. Keep vows at a minimum of 1 to 3 minutes each. Also, there will be photos before the ceremony, but be sure that these are done by the time the ceremony is about to start. Also, consider your out of town guests. If you plan a morning ceremony with evening cocktails for your reception, think about how your guests will use the time between the ceremony and the reception. As much as possible, there should only be limited “down time” between the ceremony and reception (two hours at the most). If you have to extend this waiting time, provide entertainment options for your guests.

–          Take a look at your guest list. Are there people who would rather not be in the same room together (i.e. your newly divorced aunt, your uncle-in law and his new girlfriend)? Carefully review these sticky situations and consider how you can either manage traffic between hostile guests or decide if you should not invite the one to spare the other’s feelings.

–          Greet your guests. Make your guests feel appreciated by personally welcoming them. If you need to, you can have a receiving line or visit each table to thank each one for coming. Be sure to make eye contact when conversing with your guests.

–          Designate someone who is tasked to meet your guests’ needs. Have a go-to person/s who will help guests feel comfortable (i.e. guiding them to the buffet table, encouraging them to go into the dance floor by dancing with them and so on).

–          Study seat assignments. Place guests where they will be most comfortable. Special consideration should also be given to single guests who went without a date.

–          Give your thanks promptly. Send thank-you notes as quickly as you can. One good way to thank those who sent out gifts is to acknowledge the specific gift and make a remark about how you will enjoy these.



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